How many times have you asked that question to yourself only to ask yourself the following question? Is this relationship worth all my effort? There must be some kind of enjoyment that come from a relationship before you can consider the worth or lack of. It is important to consider not only all that may be wrong but on the other hand anything that may be right. Time that two people spend together must have some rewarding value to it to give it some worth.
Work does not always make a relationship better but some people particularly women will continue working on theirs in the hopes that it will. It is something to consider that working on a relationship is not the same as doing what works to build one. Working on the commitment in most cases only pouts you in a position of compromising yourself and what you want just to hang on. A true commitment between a man and a woman is something that you can gain value from. You can have a the relationship of your dreams when you begin to spend time enjoying it instead of always working on it.
One question you must ask yourself is, "Is this the relationship that I really want"? Your answer will determine the level of commitment you are willing to give this area of your life. There are some sacrifices that will be made to create the romantic vision that you have with your partner. Women especially have these types of dreams but settle for much less just to be in the presence of their man. But why settle when you can have what you want without so much work?
Learn not to invest in short term rewards and instead expect long term results from your relationship. Choosing someone somewhere in the "ballpark" will leave you rationalizing and regretting the choices you made. Just because your boyfriend or girlfriend meets your basic requirements or there is an instant attraction does not mean they are the makings for a successful relationship. Take time to grow into the relationship and if and when the water gets rough, take another look at the changes that are happening. Realize, ladies,that your boyfriend who is now your husband probably did not change. You must look at the big picture instead of your immediate puzzled piece you thought you needed in the moment.
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Sabtu, 26 Agustus 2017
Selasa, 08 Agustus 2017
Dating and Relationship Advice - Men and Commitment - He Doesn't Want to Commit, or Does He?
To commit or not to commit, is that your question? You probably know the warning signs. Everything has been going well with the new man in your life, and then, suddenly, he becomes reluctant to see - or even speak with - you. Oh no! He doesn't want to commit... or does he?
It's very easy to jump to the conclusion that your new man has been scared away by the prospect of making a commitment. After all, by suddenly going "cold" on you like this, it certainly looks that way. But do you really know what's driving him? Do you really know why he has become distant? Perhaps the true reason has nothing to do with you at all.
In any case, if you still like him and want to save the relationship if you can, it's a good idea to respect his wishes to calm things down. If he doesn't want to see or speak to you for a while, let him be.
Ouch! Now I know that hurts but just hang in there and let my sew you back up.
Now is also a good time to reassess how you've been interacting with him.
Have you been a bit too "full-on" or a bit "too much"?
Have you, by words or actions, been pushing him for a commitment? It may well be that you have been too demanding, too early on in your relationship.
On the basis that you may have been just a little bit too pushy, I suggest you agree to back off and let things move more slowly. ( Just turn off the deafening sound of your biological clock in your head!) Of course, he may or may no longer be interested in continuing to see you, but this is probably your best chance of saving the relationship.
If you are convinced that you haven't acted in an overly demanding manner, the reason for him neglecting you may lie with him. That's right! It could he him.That is why it's important not to jump to conclusions. Sure, it may be because he's frightened of commitment... but it may also be due to reasons entirely unrelated to you and your relationship. Perhaps he is facing work or other personal difficulties that he is attempting to deal with. Alternatively, perhaps he just doesn't feel that you are the one for him, meaning that he no longer wants to see you.
In this case, you might try asking him to tell you why he no longer wishes to see you, or see you as much. If what he says indicates that it has nothing to do with your relationship - and that he wants to continue seeing you, albeit at a slower pace - it might be an opportunity for you to offer him support in whatever challenge he's facing. On the other hand, if he indicates that he's no longer interested in you, accept it and spare yourself the emotional trauma of trying to get him to change his mind. Trust me ladies, pushing, whining and drama just don't work! There is someone else out there for you - don't waste a second more on the guy who is not in it with you.
It's very easy to jump to the conclusion that your new man has been scared away by the prospect of making a commitment. After all, by suddenly going "cold" on you like this, it certainly looks that way. But do you really know what's driving him? Do you really know why he has become distant? Perhaps the true reason has nothing to do with you at all.
In any case, if you still like him and want to save the relationship if you can, it's a good idea to respect his wishes to calm things down. If he doesn't want to see or speak to you for a while, let him be.
Ouch! Now I know that hurts but just hang in there and let my sew you back up.
Now is also a good time to reassess how you've been interacting with him.
Have you been a bit too "full-on" or a bit "too much"?
Have you, by words or actions, been pushing him for a commitment? It may well be that you have been too demanding, too early on in your relationship.
On the basis that you may have been just a little bit too pushy, I suggest you agree to back off and let things move more slowly. ( Just turn off the deafening sound of your biological clock in your head!) Of course, he may or may no longer be interested in continuing to see you, but this is probably your best chance of saving the relationship.
If you are convinced that you haven't acted in an overly demanding manner, the reason for him neglecting you may lie with him. That's right! It could he him.That is why it's important not to jump to conclusions. Sure, it may be because he's frightened of commitment... but it may also be due to reasons entirely unrelated to you and your relationship. Perhaps he is facing work or other personal difficulties that he is attempting to deal with. Alternatively, perhaps he just doesn't feel that you are the one for him, meaning that he no longer wants to see you.
In this case, you might try asking him to tell you why he no longer wishes to see you, or see you as much. If what he says indicates that it has nothing to do with your relationship - and that he wants to continue seeing you, albeit at a slower pace - it might be an opportunity for you to offer him support in whatever challenge he's facing. On the other hand, if he indicates that he's no longer interested in you, accept it and spare yourself the emotional trauma of trying to get him to change his mind. Trust me ladies, pushing, whining and drama just don't work! There is someone else out there for you - don't waste a second more on the guy who is not in it with you.
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